SELF-THERAPY : A GUIDE TO SELF-HEALING AND PERSONAL GROWTH

Good morning, good afternoon, good evening—it’s your man, Kokeboi, and welcome back to the Good Living Podcast. Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s close to my heart: Therapizing Yourself. What does that mean? It’s about doing therapy for yourself, addressing the issues in your life that might require professional help, but doing it on your own terms. I’ve been therapizing myself for a while now, and if I seem happy, content, and level-headed most of the time, it’s because of this practice. Let’s break it down.

What Does It Mean to Therapize Yourself?

Therapizing yourself is about creating a formula to uncover the root of your problems and then finding solutions to address them. It’s not about lying to yourself or living in delusion—it’s about being brutally honest with yourself. Many people don’t believe they can lie to themselves, but the truth is, we all do it. And sometimes, we don’t even realize it until someone points it out.

"People don’t think they can lie to themselves, but that in itself could be a delusion. You don’t know, and you would never know if nobody tells you."

This episode is here to help you see those blind spots and start the journey of self-therapy.

Step 1: Be Honest with Yourself

The first step to therapizing yourself is honesty. You have to be real with yourself about who you are, your flaws, and your imperfections. For example, you might be perceived a certain way by others—maybe they think you’re perfect or put together. But deep down, you know there’s a side of you they don’t see.

"If you’re honest with yourself, and you’re honest with them completely, they wouldn’t have the respect they have for you. They wouldn’t feel the way they feel about you if they knew everything."

Think about it like this: when you look in the mirror, you see your true self—flaws and all. That’s the baseline for therapizing yourself. It’s about understanding those imperfections and working with them, not against them.

Step 2: The Principle of “F* or Be F*ed”

Life operates on a simple principle: either you act, or life acts on you. I call this “f*** or be f***ed.” It’s a blunt way of saying that if you don’t take control of your life, someone or something else will.

"In life, it’s either you do or it gets done to you. That’s what I mean by f** or be f**ed."

For example, in prison (not that I’ve been there, but from what I’ve heard), there’s always the fear of being violated. To avoid that, you have to establish yourself as someone who won’t be messed with. The same applies to life. If you don’t take action, you’ll become a prop in someone else’s story.

"If you’re not acting, somebody will use you as a prop for their own action."

This principle is about taking ownership of your life and making sure you’re the one driving the narrative.

Step 3: Nobody Cares as Much as You Do

Here’s a hard truth: nobody cares about your life as much as you do. Your parents might come close, but even they have their own lives to live. At the end of the day, your happiness, your goals, and your problems are your responsibility.

"Nobody will ever care in life as much as you do. Everything you care about and everything you care about doing with your life is your responsibility, 100%."

This realization can be liberating. It means you have the power to shape your life exactly how you want it. But it also means you have to put in the work.

Step 4: The Childhood Method

One of the most effective ways to therapize yourself is by looking back at your formative years. These are the years that shape who you are as an adult.

"Everything that you are right now is a destination, and there was a certain set of activities, occurrences, and events that led you to the way of life you have now."

For example, I don’t steal. I’ve never felt the urge to take something that isn’t mine. But when I thought about why, I realized it goes back to my childhood. When I was younger, I stole money from my stepmom’s shop. When I got caught, the way my family handled it—with love and understanding, not just punishment—left a lasting impression on me.

"That experience in my formative years shaped how I feel about stealing. It’s why I don’t do it."

Your formative years are crucial because they lay the foundation for your behaviors, beliefs, and attitudes. If you’re struggling with something now, think back to when it first started. How was it handled? Understanding that can help you find a solution.

The ultimate goal of therapizing yourself is to achieve self-awareness and satisfaction. When you understand yourself deeply—your triggers, your flaws, your strengths—you can navigate life with confidence.

"If you know everything about yourself that there is to know, or you can genuinely say to yourself that you’ve tried your best to find out everything about yourself, you have satisfaction."

Self-awareness also makes you resilient. When you know your weaknesses, no one can use them against you. For example, I know I talk a lot when I’m comfortable. So, if someone points it out, I can laugh about it because I’m already aware.

"Nobody can shame you about your stomach if you already know it’s big."

Satisfaction, not happiness, is the best feeling in the world. Happiness is fleeting, but satisfaction lasts. It’s the peace that comes from knowing you’ve done your best and understand yourself fully.

Why Should You Therapize Yourself?

It Makes You a Better Person: Self-awareness is attractive. When you know yourself deeply, you can navigate life with confidence and authenticity.

It Helps You Raise Better Children: If you understand your own formative years, you can raise your children with intention and break negative cycles.

It Prevents Depression: Purpose and satisfaction are the ultimate antidotes to depression. When you know your “why,” you can face any challenge.

Final Thoughts

Therapizing yourself isn’t about replacing professional therapy—it’s about taking ownership of your mental health and personal growth. By being honest with yourself, understanding your formative years, and cultivating self-awareness, you can live a more fulfilled and satisfying life.

"Finding the problem is half the solution. If you can pinpoint all your problems, you’ll have internal peace."

So, take the time to reflect, dig deep, and therapize yourself. You have the tools within you to solve your problems and create the life you want.

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